Lean Into Your Husband
Marriage Magic Mindbody Wellness Tips
Dear Awesome Woman,
Reading Julie Andrews’ memoir gave me an insight not only into this famous star’s life but further insight into relationships. Unlike the fantasy and lightness of the many roles that she played, her childhood was extremely taxing and difficult. Julie speaks about it in a very dignified way, congruent with her personality, but it’s obvious to the reader that her early life was not full of roses.
What struck me as one of the most interesting parts of her story was the role one of her fathers played in her life. I say fathers in plural because she did have three—one was biological that she only knew of much later on in life, another was her stepfather who brought much havoc to her upbringing (along with her mother’s poor choices) and the most important one, Ted Wells, was the one she always thought was her biological dad—the one that was married to her mother when she was born.
Ted Wells was a true hero. Julie refers to him as the “rock” of the family because he took on many burdens that were truly not his to carry. He did this with a warm and compassionate spirit, in spite of the affairs that his wife (Julie’s mom) had. Eventually he and Julie’s mother divorced and yet he remained very active in Julie’s life, saving her from many difficult circumstances. He did this knowing full and well that Julie was not his biological daughter, information that he never shared with her.
He was a beautiful male presence in this star’s life and the stability and values that he brought to her world and those of her extended family were extraordinary.
Sometimes we can look at our husbands and not appreciate certain qualities of theirs. We can see so many things lacking that we are blinded to their ability to be an anchor in our lives. But this is a huge thing for women—stability means safety and safety is the vessel in which the female can really thrive. Being anchored in safety and stability, she can have a home, children to nurture, a landing place to express her creativity, and space to grow her own career choices and talents.
Author Laura Doyle emphasizes in her books for women to practice receiving. One of the things that we can receive from our husbands is their ability to bear many things on their shoulders and to see things from a male perspective as well as handle things from that perspective. There is so much strength there.
Instead of trying to carry things alone, in the independent way that society emphasizes, we can choose to lean into the male presence in our lives. We can take moments to appreciate this strength and this stability that they bring to our lives and tell them so.
Using the tips from my marriage e-guide, “6 Simple Tips to Up the Vibe of Your Marriage Today!” and blog posts at YourMarriageMagic.com, you can increase the emotional safety in your relationship and gain a more expanded vision of your husband. And with this expanded vision, you can enjoy leaning into his position as an anchor in your home.
How can you lean in?
Thank you for reading! I’m so excited that you’ve joined me on this Marriage Magic Mindbody Wellness path where it’s not all talk, but an integration of your mind, body, and soul wisdom. I offer Marriage Magic sessions when you desire to increase the emotional safety, love, and connection in your relationship. Please schedule your 20-minute free Marriage Magic Clarity Call today.
As a Somatic Healer, Relationship Expert & Clarity Coach, I’ve had the privilege of working with amazing clients worldwide. Each one discovers the healing powers of their bodies, the wisdom of their emotions, and the deep connection to their intuition as well as developing skills to create a marriage they love. Read more Mindbody Wellness @ MiriamRacquel.com and download your free gift e-guide: “3 Secrets to Solve Burnout and Get Energized the Mindbody Wellness Way” (also gives access to your free download of “Escape from the Borderline/Narcissist’s Web”).
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“Working with Miriam Racquel while I was dating was a transformational experience. I loved how instead of giving me advice, she helped me figure out what I really wanted and what my heart was truly feeling. Working together has helped me realize patterns in myself and others which empowers me to deepen and enrich my relationships. She’s patient and kind and goes above and beyond for her clients. I have so much more clarity and peace of mind after just 3 sessions. Highly recommended!” – F.R., Passaic, NJ
“I reached out to Miriam Racquel shortly after I had just gotten married as my marriage was not turning out to be the fairytale I had always dreamed it to be. Within just a few sessions I began feeling so empowered to make positive, lasting changes in my marriage that I had control over, and the wisdom I have accessed through Miriam Racquel’s help has truly transformed my marriage into the playful, passionate one that I have always desired. I love the mind-body healing work that Miriam Racquel infuses into her sessions. These practices have allowed me to release my emotions in a powerful way and give me a great sense of relief, validation, and confidence to help me move forward with love.” – N.C.G., Atlanta, Georgia
Sending love and blessings,
Miriam Racquel (Meryl)
Master Mindbody/Somatic Healer, Relationship Expert & Clarity Coach
