Marriage Magic Tips
Dear Awesome Woman,
I’ve been married for most of my adult life and for many of those years I did not follow nor even know of the Marriage Magic tips that I’m sharing with you here. And my marriage and health paid the price. Now, it’s been about eight years that I’ve been practicing these and what a difference! There are other Mindbody Wellness techniques I use along with these tips—ones to clear resentment, deal with disappointment, own my shadows, set boundaries and limits, and practice major self-care—all that help create a home of greater emotional safety and love.
And though I am not perfect and slip at times, the foundation is so much stronger that the slip up is only a minor bump on the road instead of leading to lost nights of sleep and conflict as in the past. I invite you to use these tips and know that each time practiced is a golden nugget in your marriage bank account:
1) Sacred Silence — If you can, try remaining silent when you feel the urge to correct the way your husband does something, wears something or speaks something. Sometimes as women we can think that “we know better”, but it’s a knock to our husband’s self-esteem to constantly correct him. Instead do an act of sacred silence. I was fortunate to train with relationship expert, Laura Doyle, and she tells women to put on the “duct tape.” It’s amazing the amount of peace that I’ve had when I choose not to put my two cents in with everything my husband does. Obviously there are times to communicate and things to say, but jumping onto our partner’s side of the court is not as necessary as often as we think and can cause friction and a belittling of our husband’s faith in himself.
2) Send Your Husband Appreciations —Throughout the week, share WhatsApp messages, texts, little notes or spoken words of gratitude towards your husband. It’s not only for his benefit in feeling like a star in your eyes, but it’s also a great habit for us to “never take anything for granted.” You can say thank you and add a quality or feeling to the appreciation—point out that when he listens to your worries, that you feel emotionally supported; when he takes the kids out to the park, you get the needed break that you so desperately desired; that when he does the shopping, you appreciate his dedication to the family; that when he works, that you appreciate him taking responsibility. By pointing out the little things that make him your hero, you’ll have a man who feels like he can make his wife happy. He’s getting the most important thing in life right and that is his relationship with you. Even if you feel disgruntled over the things he doesn’t do — these appreciations are like gold nuggets in your marriage bank account and things can shift for the better.
3) Your Feelings Count — Emotions are “energy in motion” and present as physical sensations in your body. When you put your awareness on them—the clenching of the jaw, the tension in the chest, the nervousness in the stomach—the energy flows. This benefits your body as well as provides important intuitive guidance for you that shows up as an image, a neutral thought or a word. This is also an act of self-compassion—taking the time to be honest with yourself and go within. We’re less likely to lash out at our husbands when we are kind to ourselves. I’ve developed the ROAR! Process as a somatic release technique to help process trauma, grief, frustration, anger and other strong emotions. Used in marriage, it can help release built up resentment and clear the path for renewed love.
Need a helping hand? I invite you to schedule your free Marriage Magic Clarity Call. As a Somatic healer, Relationship Expert & Clarity Coach, I help empower women to trust themselves through the wisdom of their bodies and intuition in their relationships, career and health. Looking forward to hearing your voice!
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“I reached out to Miriam Racquel shortly after I had just gotten married as my marriage was not turning out to be the fairytale I had always dreamed it to be. Within just a few sessions I began feeling so empowered to make positive, lasting changes in my marriage that I had control over, and the wisdom I have accessed through Miriam Racquel’s help has truly transformed my marriage into the playful, passionate one that I have always desired. I love the mind-body healing work that Miriam Racquel infuses into her sessions. These practices have allowed me to release my emotions in a powerful way and give me a great sense of relief, validation, and confidence to help me move forward with love.”
- N.C.G., Atlanta, Georgia
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Sending love & blessings,
Miriam Racquel Feldman
Somatic Healer, Relationship Expert & Clarity Coach