Monday Marriage Magic Tip: Your Way and His Way Are Different
Marriage Mindbody Magic
Dear Awesome Woman,
Your way and your husband’s way are different. Duh, right? But so many marital struggles and petty fights are because we actually forget this very important detail. We are different people with different backgrounds, tastes, opinions, hormones, bodies, cultures (male and female), etc. Add in past lives (gilgulim in Hebrew) and who knows what the heck is going on?!
Mindbody Marriage Magic Tips for today?
1) Admit to yourself that you don’t know the best way for your husband or partner to get something done. Acknowledging this is called humility and respect. I used to think (and sometimes still do!) that I knew the best way for my husband to drive, handle paperwork, speak on the phone, dress, parent the children, diet etc. And yet, how silly. Our personalities and natures are so different! So many wasteful arguments came about from this attitude. Now I know better and most of the time (I am human!) do better. I give him so much space to just be him and at the same time, I don’t ignore my needs.
2) Next time you feel the urge to tell your husband or partner what to do and how to do it, ground yourself by feeling your feet on the floor. Take a breath and pause. Imagine that you have duct tape on your mouth (relationship coach Laura Doyle’s phrase). See how it feels in your body to not give your opinion or advice. Notice what physical sensations and emotions come up for you. Perhaps there is fear, humility, respect, embarrassment, or sadness. Remain with awareness of your body even if there is discomfort. This is a moment of sacred silence in which you are not taking control of the situation but are just allowing what is. Allowing your partner to just be.
***Do not do this if there is an immediate danger to what your husband is doing or if you have a preference that involves you.
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I had no idea what “somatic healing” was, but I knew that the traditional modalities were very expensive, time-consuming and not very helpful. When I read that this sort of healing includes the body’s responses and mechanisms I was keenly interested but quite skeptic. I’d vote myself to be the least likely to be affected by something like this—let alone positively. But I gave it a chance, and although I cannot explain how it worked— it worked!
The painful memories no longer create the same physical responses. I remember them because of course we can’t erase memory, but I truly no longer feel the pain of the trauma I endured. The quality of every aspect of my life has increased and I finally feel happiness and freedom.
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