Mindbody Marriage Magic Tips
Dear Awesome Woman,
You know what makes you more awesome than you already are? It’s not what you expect.
It’s your ability to receive.
Yup, you heard me right. When you, as an awesome woman, are willing to receive, amazing possibilities open up to you. Your intuition gets stronger, your joy gets larger, your health gets better and doors (literally) open up to you.
I love the way relationship coach and author, Laura Doyle, goes into the details of this concept. Being receptive is the art of femininity. It is even closely connected to Kabbalah which explains that women, the feminine, are ‘mkabels’, which means ‘receivers’ in Hebrew.
So, let me ask you this question: How well do you receive? How often do you allow others to do for you and give to you? How often do you open your arms, surrender control, and welcome the vulnerability of receiving?
I know that for too many years, I tried to be the type of superwoman who attempted to do everything by myself, rejecting offers of help from others. I even rejected compliments. If someone complimented me or thanked me, I dismissed it with a “no big deal” statement. Or even worse, didn’t believe them.
But when I opened myself up to my divine gift of my femininity—my ability to receive—I claimed the knowledge that a Superwoman is a woman who knows that she has limited time, energy and resources. She chooses wisely, doing self care and respecting herself to rest, enjoy moments in time, and take action where she can.
She receives help with grace, honesty and humility because she knows that to be human means she can’t do it all herself. She receives gifts and compliments because she is open to being vulnerable and enjoys connections with others who are being generous with their words and care.
Now, which kind of Superwoman are you? One that does it all herself and feels drained and resentful or one who is open and receptive to help, gifts and compliments? Take a moment to sit in stillness with this question.
If receiving causes you emotional distress, it is important to question why that is. Why are you uncomfortable? Is it because you’ve decided that for the person who is offering you a favor, you’ll owe her/him something in return? Or that the person is too busy and doesn’t really mean it?
Have you decided that the person complimenting you is just being nice, but her words couldn’t possibly be true about you?
All these reasons for rejecting or dismissing safe help or kind, sincere compliments are rooted in fear and control.
As a true Superwoman, you don’t need to receive from people you don’t feel safe with, nor should you receive what causes you physical or emotional distress. As a true Superwoman, you need to cherish your being and use wise discernment.
But if the offer is coming from someone you do feel safe with and it would be helpful, releasing you from the task of doing something all by yourself, can you receive that? And if someone compliments your looks or something about your personality, can you just say a plain “thank you” with a smile?
Let’s take a look at the fear and control factor. To reject an offer for help because you think that your friend can’t afford the time is trying to control another person’s reality. You are fearing that they don’t know themselves well enough to make healthy decisions regarding their time and energy. You are driving in their lane of life.
To reject or dismiss a compliment is an attempt to decide someone’s experience of you. And perhaps fearing that you can’t possibly live up to what they are experiencing.
But can you imagine stepping into new shoes? Imagine being a woman who feels safe with her vulnerability to receive.
A true Superwoman trusts others to own their own reality; if they offer help, they mean it. And if they feel taxed by their offer, then they will have learned an important lesson in self-care—the lesson being “don’t offer if you can’t—the other person just may say yes! and take you up on it.”
A true Superwoman owns her own reality as well; she trusts herself to know when she is able to give, how much, and to whom. If she wants to do a favor, then she does. She knows her capabilities and limitations. She knows who she wants connection with and whom she doesn’t.
A true Superwoman receives help graciously and trusts herself to know whether she wants what the other person is offering. She also discerns who is offering. If she does not want a connection with that person or has found that person to be untrustworthy in the past, then she says “no thank you.”
A true Superwoman receives compliments with humility and a simple “thank you” because she trusts that this is how the person experiences her. And she receives that with grace.
Each time that you as a woman reject an offer from someone safe, you are rejecting that person. And each time you dismiss a compliment, you are rejecting the person giving the compliment. And each of these times, you are also rejecting yourself and your powerful femininity.
Being a true Superwoman means being vulnerable. Vulnerable to connection with others and vulnerable to the reality that you are human and can’t do everything yourself. There is no shame in that.
Since I’ve been practicing this beautiful type of femininity—the ability to receive and to choose trust and vulnerability over control and fear—my life has changed remarkably, opening me up to more incredible connections with others and much more joy.
So today, I invite you to receive and tap into your powerful femininity. The universe will notice your awesome receptivity and miracles will happen. Enjoy the ride!
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