Monday Marriage Magic Tip #51: The Man You Choose Today
Marriage Mindbody Magic
Dear Awesome Woman,
“That your husband, and yourself, will change is not the question—it is a given. The same goes for your feelings about him and even your marriage. But before we question our hearts and our commitments, have we really given this changed man a chance? Is the man standing before you today, the man who loves you and takes care of you, worthy of being your spouse?” – Dovid Feldman
It’s true that for some women, the man they marry is not the man they dated — meaning unfortunate personality disorders are revealed or anger issues that are terrifying to live with, surface. But for many women, the man they marry changes over time because of the hardships of life and negative interaction patterns between the couple.
As I always tell my clients, most of us grew up with not the most ideal role models and were not taught any marriage skills. That means we enter a couplehood with false expectations, ignorance of the male culture and childhood wounds. Not a good recipe for a healthy marriage.
But marriage is the petri dish of an honest self-help experiment. When we are committed and choose to “work things out” with the proper guidance and with Somatic Healing tips, we can have a marriage that is kind, loving and thrives. We can become a better person and our spouse can too.
It’s worth a try.
Sharing an enlightening article by my husband, Dovid Feldman, Marriage and Family Therapist: The Man You Married is Gone.
It’s only too late if you don’t start now. Often people wait while things are sliding downhill. It’s just not smart to put your most important relationships (the one with yourself and the one with your husband) on the back burner.
When I help clients rebuild their marriages, there is such a feeling of satisfaction and wonder. I understand that the tools and guidance are not just helping save two people from destructive habits, but are helping create a legacy of peace, love, kindness, commitment and connection across generations.
“These have been the most freeing and life-changing sessions I’ve ever had! Miriam is magic!” – A.H., Colorado
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Sending love and blessings,
Miriam Racquel (Meryl)
Master Mindbody/Somatic Healer, Marriage Coach, Trauma & Anxiety Specialist