September 22, 2024

Monday Marriage Magic Tip #77: Flawed

B”H

Marriage Somatic/Mindbody Magic

Dear Awesome Woman,

“So we have this ideal of what love is and then these very, very unhelpful narratives of love. And they’re everywhere. They’re in movies and songs — and we mustn’t blame songs and movies too much. But if you say to people, ‘Look, love is a painful, poignant, touching attempt by two flawed individuals to try and meet each other’s needs in situations of gross uncertainty and ignorance about who they are and who the other person is, but we’re going to do our best,’ that’s a much more generous starting point. So the acceptance of ourselves as flawed creatures seems to me what love really is.” —Alain de Botton

Marriage Somatic Magic tips today?

Do you love yourself and yet accept yourself as a flawed person? What is the perfection you are comparing yourself to? What is the perfection you are comparing your husband to? Humility, not perfection goes a long way in marriage.

Check your energy when you’re interacting with your husband.

If you’re judging him negatively in your mind, that energy will radiate outward. He’ll sense it and his nervous system will go into fight (defensive mode) or flight (walking away) or even the dorsal vagal state (depression, shut down, why bother?). If men are watching a game and their team is losing, they will shut off the game and walk away. They will give up. If a husband feels like he is always losing with you, he will give up trying to please you.

Are you holding onto resentment and therefore, there’s an edge in your voice? Use the ROAR! Process from my new book, Somatic Healing for the Modest Goddess. It will do wonders for all your relationships.

Are you using the “husband language” suggestions that I also share in the book?

Life can be practical. Not necessarily simple, but practical and made easier with effective tips. Don’t suffer in ignorance when you can get the help you need to have more peace in your home.

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