Marriage Tips from …Dolly Parton
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Marriage Tips from …Dolly Parton
Marriage Somatic/Mindbody Magic Tips
***I wrote and sent this newsletter out before I learned of Dolly Parton’s husband’s death. It was published the day of — a strange divine providence.
Dear Awesome Woman,
Since the world can feel very heavy, sad, and scary — especially since October 7th — I like to draw my attention at times to people and things that are fascinating in their own rights and a distraction from the reality of the horror that has an unfortunate place in the world. I’ll read an autobiography about an elephant whisperer, a deaf singer, or a famous Jewish mind reader. Recently, my attention has gone to Dolly Parton, the country singer.
I picked up her fun little book called “Dream More.” Her background, charity work, optimism, dedication to family, and her incredible achievements are awe-inspiring. When Hashem (G-d in Hebrew) decides to rain mazel (fortune) and success on someone who uses incredible efforts for the good, it is heartwarming to see.
It is also heartwarming to hear about her marriage to Carl, a man she has been devoted to for over 57 years. They have a fascinating marriage considering that she is way out there in personality, in looks, in style, and in her show business while he had an asphalt paving business and quietly stayed out of her limelight. I believe that he has only seen one of her shows and she has done thousands.
What we can learn about marriage from Dolly:
***She publicly speaks very warmly, appreciatively, and highly of him.
***She accepts him for who he is. At the beginning of her career, she asked him to attend her award ceremony, which he did. She rented him a tux, which he wore. In the parking lot as they left the event, he took off much of his tux gear and said, “Look, now I want you to do everything you want to do, and I wish you the best, but don’t ever ask me to go to another one of these damn things because I ain’t going.” And he never went again in all the 57 years they’ve been married. She recognized how uncomfortable he had been the whole night, took his words to heart, and gave him the acceptance, love, and space to be who he is (and vice versa— he supports her to do what she loves).
***They are very, very different from each other in personality, style, and the interests they pursue. And yet, in her words, “but yet we have the things we love to do together.” Their differences have not stopped them from being in sync with each other where they can and valuing time spent together.
***She came from a close-knit, loving family of 12 children and a very impoverished home (though her father was a hard worker, he never learned to read and write). She grew up in rags and hand-me-downs and sings about her past. She experienced both shame and pride. As soon as she started to make money, she and Carl chose to support her parents, siblings, and extended family to give them a hand up in the world.
***She takes commitment very seriously and though they have had their ups and downs, they are committed in their love for each other and are both dedicated (stubborn) to fixing what doesn’t work.
***She is a woman of faith as well as what she calls, “horse sense” (common sense), and is generous about giving back to her community. She talks to G-d in the early morning and all day, knowing that her talent and blessings come from Above, a power higher than her. Her humility, joy, and generosity create a certain energy around her.
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Though I am of a different faith, dress code, and background to Dolly, I love learning what I can from her joy, her wise words, her love for others, and her self-effacing humility. If the world had more Dolly’s, I believe it would be a better place.
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Sending love and blessings,
Miriam Racquel (Meryl)
Master Mindbody/Somatic Healer, Marriage Coach, Trauma & Anxiety Specialist
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