Monday Marriage Magic Tip #95: Men are Providers
Men are Providers
Marriage Somatic/Mindbody Magic Tips
Dear Awesome Woman,
“The two most powerful tools a woman has to influence a man are respect and admiration.”
“If you asked a group of men whether they’d rather live their whole lives being loved but disrespected or being respected but unloved, most would overwhelmingly choose the respected option.”
“If a man’s wife does not believe in him or does not respect him or is continuously dissatisfied, he will feel hopeless with no reason to go forward or attempt any new challenges. He will feel, “What’s the point?”’
These 3 powerful, enlightening statements are from a little book I picked up at the airport many years ago: How to Talk so Your Husband will Listen by Rick Johnson. It holds so much wisdom.
I believe that females walk around from a young age thinking that males are like them — they have different body parts but same brains.
Males may not understand the difference between themselves and females, but one thing they do know is that they are a radically different species than them — mind, soul, and body.
It is wise for women to get curious and spend energy enlightening themselves about men. We can win more at marriage when we do this.
Mindbody/Somatic Marriage Magic Tips:
Bring more peace and good will into your home. Remember we are all walking nervous systems and living in the ventral vagal state as much as possible is ideal. How do we bring more connection and emotional safety with our husbands? Let them know how they are getting it right by you, how they show up for you (big and little ways), and how and what they are providing for you.
Men are not taskers — getting tasks done and accomplished does not float their boat. But providing for those they love does.
> “Thanks for being so playful with the kids. I love my kids having a father who brings fun and lightness into our home. You provide that for us. And I don’t take it for granted.”
> “I’ve had professionals praise my website and I just want to say thank you! You’re a computer genius and you help me so much! I couldn’t be on this journey without your warm heart and generous spirit ❤️❤️❤️” (I whatsapped this to my husband recently)
Check out more ideas from the Marriage Magic blog, past newsletters (see access below), and from Somatic Healing for the Modest Goddess.
Every time that you speak or send a good word to your hubby, you’ve upped the emotional safety in the home, helped tilt your nervous system state and your family’s into the ventral vagal, and added a gold coin into your marriage bank account. Celebrate you!
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Sending love and blessings,
Miriam Racquel (Meryl)
Master Mindbody/Somatic Healer, Marriage Coach, Trauma & Anxiety Specialist
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