Marriage Magic Tip
Dear Awesome Woman,
As a woman, you may be so busy in your mind and your life, that your body is overcharged with adrenaline and cortisol. Your nervous system may feel like it is being chased by a lion, living in a state of constant fight and flight. Tapping into mindbody awareness and actively doing something to care for your nervous system can bring a sense of safety into your being. This safer energy will radiate out into your marriage creating a more loving and kind space.
Here’s a few tips for relaxing your nervous system:
- Practice a Simple, Short Sense Spot Meditation:
Close your eyes and notice what you are hearing. Throw your hearing out in all directions as far as it can go. Just listen.
Breathe in and feel your breath being inhaled and exhaled.
Sense what your clothes feel like on your body. Also, sense the way your body feels in the chair you are sitting on. Feel your feet on the ground. If you’re outside, notice the sun on your face, the breeze passing you by.
Taste what you taste in your mouth.
Open your eyes slowly and take in what you see with a wide, relaxed vision.
- Do Sticker Breathing:
Oftentimes if you are so busy racing to get your to-do list done, you may forget to breathe consciously. This lack of awareness and breath constricts muscles in your body. To get into the present moment, put a few stickers on places throughout your home. A few times a day (you decide on a number— 3- 5 would be terrific) take a pause when you come across the sticker, and breathe a deep inhale in and release. You can also bring your arms over your head, curl your fingers onto the top of your crown (it makes a heart shape) and get that expansion in your chest. Relax any parts of you that are holding tight. Pay particular awareness to your stomach and back area where you may tend to hold tension.
- Bring Mindbody Awareness into Difficult Interactions:
Notice what your body is telling you when you are having a difficult interaction with your husband. Does your stomach clench, your breath constrict, your jaw clench? These are actual emotional responses being conveyed to you through your physical sensations. You can put your hand on those places which allows the energy to flow instead of getting stuck. Getting professional guidance is helpful to understanding what your mind and body are telling you. The way you may be interpreting things can stem from childhood wounding, trauma, past resentments, misunderstandings etc. and not necessarily the present moment. I developed a somatic release technique that helps process resentment, pain, trauma and sadness and has been a health lifesaver for me as well as my clients—it’s called the ROAR! Process. When combined with the practical tips of my free marriage e-guide, 6 Simple Tips to Up the Vibe of Your Marriage Today!, it’s a great tool for helping women move from negative rumination in their marriages and step into a higher vibe where more love can grow.
- Bring a Compassionate Angel in to Help:
When there is something important to speak to your spouse about or if there is a conflict going on, try to bring a compassionate angel into your imagination. Your imagination is a powerful tool for living. As you may have done before, when you imagine the worst case scenarios, your body will be in fear as if that event is happening at the moment. So you can also use your imagination for good too! Imagining that there is a spiritual figure that is higher than this physical world—seeing and understanding everything, uplifts the situation that you are in at the moment. Your energy will shift (you will feel safer) and that will help bring wise words for you to speak. Your spouse will also feel safer—energy is tangible. When we are scared or angry (and sometimes we need to be to set boundaries), dialogue can be confrontational. Bringing a compassionate angel into your imagination can create a more peaceful solution.
A version of this article was also published in Nishei Magazine for Jewish Women
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I reached out to Miriam Racquel shortly after I had just gotten married as my marriage was not turning out to be the fairytale I had always dreamed it to be. Within just a few sessions I began feeling so empowered to make positive, lasting changes in my marriage that I had control over, and the wisdom I have accessed through Miriam Racquel’s help has truly transformed my marriage into the playful, passionate one that I have always desired. I love the mind-body healing work that Miriam Racquel infuses into her sessions. These practices have allowed me to release my emotions in a powerful way and give me a great sense of relief, validation, and confidence to help me move forward with love.
- N.C.G., Atlanta, Georgia
Love and blessings,
Somatic Healer, Relationship Expert & Clarity Coach