Somatic Marriage Magic Tips: 7 Marriage-Myth Busters
Dear Awesome Woman,
Here are 7 marriage myths:
#1 Show up as you are, your spouse just has to deal with it.
#2 Honesty is the best policy.
#3 In good marriages, there’s no fighting.
#4 Men and women are the same.
#5 You should never have sexual intimacy when you don’t feel like it.
#6 A wife can better her husband by telling him how to do things/what changes he should make.
#7 If I just try harder, my marriage will be better.
Marriage-myth-busters:
#1 Three steps to destroy your marriage:
- Show up as you are with an attitude of take me as I am.
- Have marital issues.
- Conclude you married the wrong person.
#2 See above and also read: Is Honesty the Best Policy?
#3 There’s conflict in healthy marriages because the partners aren’t afraid to disagree. According to therapist Terry Real, there is a rhythm and cycle to all marriages in which there is Harmony, Disharmony, and Repair (return to closeness). Many marriages lack the ability to repair because there is terrible advice out there from social media, friends, and even from some therapists/coaches/healers. People also lack healthy character traits, effective marriage skills, and have not learned to heal their childhood wounds and unhelpful thought patterns.
#4 Men and women are different. Please read:
Marriage chapter of Somatic Healing for the Modest Goddess
Marriage Magic Tips: What’s the Difference Between Nagging and Asking More Than Once?
Marriage Magic Tips: Men are Providers
#5 In a marriage, one spouse may have low desire and one spouse higher desire. Because of men’s higher level of testosterone, they usually are the ones with higher desire. There are ways inside of the bedroom and outside of the bedroom to increase the woman’s desire. Since marriage is not a “roommate situation,” the couple needs to figure it out or get help.
#6 There are ways to influence a husband for the positive. Criticizing him or offering “helpful” advice usually leads to the opposite.
#7 What does “trying harder” actually mean? Trying wiser with effective marriage skills and somatically processing your own emotions and shadows is a great recipe rather than “trying harder” with bad advice.
Also, if a spouse has Borderline or Narcissistic traits, “trying harder” is just hurtful to the well spouse. These marriages need careful navigation and can sometimes thrive with help.
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“You can be right, or you can be married. You can’t have both.” – Terry Real
It’s unfortunate that the recipe for nurturing a good marriage isn’t taught in school. I’ve developed one that is helping women thrive with their spouses and energize their marriages.
It includes:
***Somatically processing emotions and triggers
***Tapping into intuition
***Releasing resentment
***Using effective communication skills
***Doing more of what you love
***Owning your shadow
and
***Giving appreciation and letting your husband know how they get it right by you
If you’re open to trying it, please do!
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Miriam Racquel (Meryl)
