Do I Always Use Laura Doyle? No! Use These Somatic Tips for a Better Marriage.
B”H
Marriage Magic Tip #106: Do I Always Use Laura Doyle? No! Use These Somatic Tips for a Better Marriage.
Marriage Mindbody Magic
Dear Awesome Woman,
As many of you may know, I’m a Laura Doyle trained relationship coach on top of my Martha Beck training and Somatic/Mindbody Master training. But I don’t always use Laura Doyle in my coaching or in my marriage.
Life is nuanced. Marriage is nuanced. Relationships can be tricky to navigate because each human being is so different from one another. As I tell my clients, we have different lanes that we’re driving in. Your husband has one lane. You have another.
In your husband’s lane—there are his thoughts, feelings, emotions, childhood wounds, childhood adaptions, past life adaptations (yes, I believe we’ve been here before as souls in bodies), values, and ideas.
In your lane, there are your thoughts, feelings, emotions, childhood wounds, childhood adaptions, past life adaptations, values, and ideas.
On your side of the net, you are you and on his side, he is him.
How the heck are we supposed to live together, raise families, make money, deal with the big stuff and little stuff, and have a semblance of love and peace? It’s a miracle when we go that marriage mile and have breezy moments of connection, joy, and harmony with the one we have committed ourselves to.
When there’s conflict, here are somatic tips and communication techniques that may work for your marriage and give you additional skills to get closer to your spouse. And remember, if you don’t do anything different, nothing will change. But if you take tiny turtle steps forward with slight shifts, a lot can change for the better. I’ve done this journey and continue to do so and my clients have as well. Miracles are waiting.
Step 1: If mad, disappointed, frustrated, do the somatic ROAR! Process — get it out on paper and in private. Do movement as the process requires. After releasing, listen for any intuition that pops into your right brain.
Step 2: Do the somatic Shadow Process (blog post walks you thru this exercise).
Step 3: Try the following for having effective communication around the situation (take notes beforehand and come with your paper for smoother sailing) —
***Give a gratitude for what you do appreciate about him (his character or how he shows up for you).
***Relate the event or situation that happened and perhaps what had been agreed upon by the two of you. Please do not use the words, “always, never, I can’t trust you.”
***Tell him the story that you tell yourself about the situation. Remember this is your take on things. He’s got a whole other lane.
***Tell him the emotions that came up for you: sad, fearful, vulnerable, frustrated, feeling unimportant, not cared for in the moment.
***State what you’d like in the future — “I’d like…”
May you have lots of success using these techniques and remember you are an awesome being! Love yourself a lot, do self-care, and speak to yourself and others kindly.
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Love & blessings,
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